How pain motivates us
One of the major reasons why many people are not successful today is- the lack of motivation.
We lack motivation to do something when we have no reason to do it on the first place. The ‘why’; behind what you do is the motivation to do it. If you get a big enough ‘why’, you can get away with any ‘how’. It’s always the reasons come fist and answers come second. We need to have solid reasons to achieve almost anything. When purpose is lost everything is lost. We need to find enough reasons to do something. When we have more reasons to do something we will do it anyhow. Think about this for instance- when we have enough reasons to have our basic necessities in life, like food, clothing and shelter, we have them. People who do not enjoy luxury may not have enough reasons for having luxury. The key is this. People who enjoy all the luxuries have enough reasons to have them on the first place. For them it is like having the basic necessity. That is also the reason why they are able to achieve them. Reasons give you a sense of urgency in life. Reasons put all your actions on top priority. Reasons give you the motivation to go after something.
How can you find reasons to do something? Everyday reasons are presented to us in many forms.
Pain is the biggest reason in disguise.
Indeed pain is very useful. Pain is great motivator. We do everything in life to avoid pain and to achieve pleasure. Pain gives you the drive to change. Pain leads you take decisions in life. If you can examine your life and recall incidents, you will know how many times you have taken a decision to avoid pain. Pain creates the disturbance within us and in order to achieve a mental equilibrium; we take important decisions to balance our lives. Every decision is a new course of action, a new path for further exploration.
Pain is the greatest motivator of all.
People became millionaires to avoid the pain of poverty. People became famous to avoid the pain of loneliness. We do more things in life out of pure desperation than inspiration. Pain gives us the hunger to seek out and satisfy our needs. Pain makes us recall on what is that we want in life. Because pain represent sadness and we feel sad when we miss something in life.
Pain puts us back on track to identify our goals.
Even though pain is the greatest motivator, we live in a culture that can take away the pain instantly and leave us with no motivation. People use instant remedy from pain by indulging in alcohol, tobacco or drugs. Pain goes away and so does the motivation to do something worthwhile. The cultural hypnosis of reducing pain instantly through immediate gratification has taken away lot of human motivation to achieve anything. Remember this ‘any time you start making short term decisions to avoid pain in the short term; you create pain in the long term.
You have been driven by the forces of pain and pleasure all the while. Most of what you have achieved till now is driven by your need to avoid pain. You can in fact model your future success from your past. If you can recall; there are times in your life, where you have already succeeded. You can model what you did and put together an action plan. Write down everything in your life that once was a dream, once was a goal. Look at the job you have, once that was a dream, the car or house you own was once a dream. The business or the title you hold was once a strong vision or the life partner you have now was once was a dream.
Now after listing your achievements, circle one or two that was thought almost impossible by you. How did you make that happen?
Instead of being comfortable, you wanted more-don’t you? You got disturbed about your statusquo and you wanted more. You were driven by the pain of not having them-don’t you?
What happens to most people after getting what they want is they get comfortable and lose their drive for more. In fact small success in life can become a major impediment to your future successes.
The biggest challenge of success is success itself. Many people get comfortable with their previous success. Success in any area can quickly breed complacency and a reluctance to change in response to the new realities created by change. You need pain. You need to stay hungry. You need your mojo to go after challenges. If you are free of pain, you are gutless.